Change
I was watching the movie The Bridges of Madison County yesterday. Frankly I found it pretty boring, but some of the things the characters say are thought provoking.
Change is something most people are afraid of. The only way to fight it is to consider it as one of the things in life that you can count on. When you do that, all the perspectives change. There are, after all very few things you can count on.
Theses lines remind me of something else that I had read. There is only one certainty in the world, that everything is uncertain.Those lines really made me think. Is it not true, how we expect things to be the same forever? How scared we are of the uncertainties of life? So what do we do? We make a paradigm shift. We start counting on the fact that everything is going to change. That nothing is permanent. That things will always get better or worse. Followers of Murphy will say they always get worse, but mostly all of us will be hoping they always get better.
Placement season in college always means loads of tension and competition. You look at the people around you in the room and make your own totem pole. I think I am better than him, him, her and her. Some get their jobs, you are one of them. (you thank all your lucky stars and gods and goddesses for that). And then you think of the big topic. CHANGE. Things that you were aware of, but never gave a serious thought to, come to your mind. The thought of living on your own, the thought of earning your first penny, the thought of being surrounded by strangers. Thoughts of having finally begun the unending quest of knowing what you want and getting there. Thoughts of finally having to accept responsibility of your own actions. CHANGE.
Just as situations change, people change too. A mother of two kids says she doesn’t know her husband. When she goes for foreign trip with him, she feels she is with a stranger. It is because people are always changing. Always adapting, always adjusting. You think you really know a person? Think again. They have already changed by the time you have come close to understanding them. The trick, then is to see if you are still happy. If you still manage to laugh and cry and share, and most important of all, have long conversations with them, you will probably know them best. This generation of young people will not marry for social/financial/economic security. They will look for emotional security. Thats when you start counting on change. Hoping that it ill only help you face life better, help you understand some of the mysteries, and teach you to just forget about those that cannot be solved.
Like Sheryl crow says…a change will do you good. 
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i wld say the best post by u ……..very well written an very very true ….reminded me of when i had thought of all this….the though being ” Do ppl change just becaz the world around them is changing and if so arent they responsible for bringing abt this change in the world??..” ” Do ppl still lie to hide their wrong doings or lie for the sake of lying ??”
the thought still remains ” Do i care too much for people who give a dam abt me” if so why??..why dnt i change?
Most of the time people change not because they want to .. but they simply dont have any other choice left.
Hey ma totz exactly Especially para4!…..dsnt make 4 pleasant finkin!!! Itz jus like u’ve been hit hard…smack!! ..wake up! u put it so nicely….
Waz jus ponderin over d same n i realised dat yea v do like continuity…are afraid of d unseen…d uncharted terrirories…..n ven v get der n start feelin a wee bit comfortable…d frwd button getz pressed! n hey v gotta live it out….So y nt make d best of it!! “Count on CHANGE” keep liking what v c……. Hopin n tryin 2 b happy…….
Thanks NT2016
yeah u have a point akshar
hey sparky!! gud to c u commenting again
couldnt agree more with u