Quite a few things have triggered the writing of this post, and one of them is this line I read in Shantaram; A good man is as strong as the right woman needs him to be. How true. I have written quite a few posts on women and their issues, so I thought this one was due for the men ( 
) I have gotten to know in my life.
I know the whole girl-guy thing is a big filmy cliche to most people. But as a college go-er, it is but my responsibility to write about it . So here we go.
I wouldn’t call myself a tomboy, but you will find me with the guys rather than the girls during practicals and in the canteen. I wouldn’t say I am an agony aunt either, but it is true that I know about most of the things my brothers and friends go through. Ask a guy who his best friend is and he will probably not have and answer. If he does have an answer, it is more likely a girl. You see, the problem with these beings from Mars is, if they go to a fellow martian with their problems, they will probably get a Who are you kidding yaar, be a man! in reply. And this, even though the other guy can very well identify with the problems. It is true, that Dil Chahata Hai type friendships exist, and are very real. But at the age of 21 I am running out of friends who have not fallen in love. And all those who have opened their heart ( I don’t believe I wrote that!!!! ) to one female in particular know what I am talking about, that indeed, a guys best friend is a girl.
So getting back to the quote at the beginning of the post, let us try to answer this question: Is it true that society and life in general demands more emotional strength from the men?
First of all, emotional strength is a very abstract thing. There cannot be any comparison in reality… But still lets give it a try. I have seen how much tension a guy goes through when he is beginning or even ending a relationship. I have seen guys suffer under the pressure of living up to expectations that their families and sometimes they themself set for themselves. I have seen the kind of strength needed in a man who needs to set up a good life for not just himself, but for the family he wishes to have. These are only some of the things that every guy I know has to live with. Sometimes I wish I was a guy, for all the freedom they get, all the recklessness they get away with, all the questions they don’t have to answer. But then I wonder if i will have the strength to be one 
So in general, I think I would say yes. Of course we women/girls have our own devils to deal with too. But I know one thing. A girls response to any obstacle would be to talk about it to someone. Thats all we need, to share it with someone. What the guys do, is try to find a solution. What we fail to account for here, is that in case of situations that need emotional strength, there is no Solution. So how they deal with it, I still don’t know. I will leave that for the guys who read this to answer.
P.S (1): While I am already praising guys so much let me add this:
Guys are definitely better drivers than gals. I don’t know what it is, maybe like my friend put it, Guys don’t think, they drive. Whatever the reason, there is definitelty some in-bulit sense that makes guys better drivers
P:S (2) : Gals don’t kill me for this post, just writing what I believe in, it doesn’t have to be a universal rule
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