Love-tag

Ooooooooooo…interesting….

I was tagged by Kaps again… So here it is..

If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?
I’d hunt him down and ruin his life. Err… Tata Bbye…Watch your back

What would you do with a billion dollars?
Umm…live happily ever after??

Will you fall in love with your best friend?
Dont think so. It takes more than a best friend to handle a nut like me.

Which is more blessed, loving someone or being loved by someone?
Being loved.. Hands down

How long do you intend to wait for someone you really love?
I’m a hopeless romantic… SO .. Forever

If the person you secretly like is already attached, what would you do?
I may be too immature to answer that one, but I don’t think I’ll ever fall for some one who is already attached. But if I ever do, I’ll probably convey my feelings and back out gracefully.

If you like to act with someone, who will it be? your gf/bf or an actress/actor?
Does it have to be a guy? I wanna act with konkona if it has to be a guy….abhishek bacchan

What takes you down the fastest?
Cruel words from loved ones.

How would you see yourself in ten years time?
Happy. Surrounded by people who care.

What’s your fear?
Losing the love of those who genuinely care.

What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
She is someone I want to be in a few years.

Whose butt would you like to kick?
Long list. Way too long. Lets start with Himesh.

Would you rather be single and rich or married but poor?
Thats an unfair question! I want to neither be single, nor poor

What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?
Check the time

Would you give all in a relationship?
I love kaps’ answer here. “Perceptions.
Depends on whether the receiver sees it as a gift or punishment and
also whether I think I’ve given all or not! I hate the word ’sacrifice’.” How do you know whether you have given all? There has to be a sense of self without it being mistaken for selfishness. Basically I dont believe in give and take. However, like Kaps i hate the word sacrifice, or owing anyone anything.

If you fall in love with two people simultaneously, who would you pick?
None! I’d tell myself i was going crazy.

Would you forgive and forget, no matter how horrible a thing someone has done?
I am good at the forgiving part. I suck at the forgetting part.

Do you prefer being single or having a relationship?
Relationship. I think Paulo Coelho explains it best in 11 Minutes.. ” Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves, we simply awaken it. But in order to do that we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have soemone to share our feelings with.”

If you can have a dream to come true, what would it be?
Err.. I don’t know. I usually have nightmares..

Sponges and Driftwoods

One meets new people everyday, sometimes the people we know seem to re-invent themselves. Or rather, our perception about them changes. This whole dynamic nature of interactions with fellow humans gives rise to things like “friendship” and “love” and “unity”. Like minded people seem to group up, or sometimes even a common motive is enough…. for example… ” We want to have fun”…. Last year of college sees this change in people… Everyone is suddenly aware that in a few months these days will only be part of wistful memories and wishful thinking. And suddenly, all differences are forgotten, and then, “We want to have fun”.

This is something I have been writing about for quite long. That we never know people, we only know the image we form of them in our own minds. Most people, for that matter, don’t know themselves that thoroughly either. I am one of them. A few months back I would scoff at females whose whole aim in life is being good wives. Now I might not. Being a good wife and mother is by itself a life-time acheivement. I know that now. People change, their views, nature, everything. And your perception of them then fails to catch up.

But these days I can classify everyone I know into two clean groups. The Sponges and the Driftwoods.

The Sponges are the ones that only absorb whatever life throws at them. Good times, bad times, whatever it is, these people might spend hours drinking in the beauty of the beautiful scene, and they will take years to get over the loss of a loved one. Everything they experience will be stored away in some corner of their minds, every emotion, every memory. And every once in a while when the load becomes too much, the sponges need something to wring themselves dry, leaving only faint moist remainders of the past.

The Driftwoods are the ones that live life like a journey down a stream. Every rock, every twist and turn has its lessons to teach, and every incident carves the shape of the drifwood. But unlike the sponges, the driftwoods do not soak in everything. Every experince; whether favourable or otherwise will only play its role in shaping the driftwood, making it; by the end of its journey, an item worth collecting and marvelling at.

I am a sponge, proud to be one, but I think it is only fair to admit that every sponge, some day or the other needs to turn into driftwood. What say?